Monday, December 21, 2009

Prioritizing our life .... A nice internet forward...


This is an internet forward which i received from Kiran Bhat and i thought let me have it on my blog as i felt it conveys a powerful message in a effective way.

Yesterday, I was driving, and the FM radio went off for few seconds. I thought, I should have an iPod. Then suddenly I realized that I have not used my iPod in last 6 months. And then… more things, Handy cam in last 2 years, Digital Camera in last 2 months, DVD player in last 1 month and many more. Now I can say that I bought that Handy cam just out of impulse, I have used it twice only in last 4 years.

So, whats wrong and where? When I look at myself or my friends I can see it everywhere. We are not happy with what we have but all are stressed and not happy for the things we don’t have. You have a Santro, but you want City… You have a City, but you want Skoda. Just after buying a new phone, we need another one. Better laptop, bigger TV, faster car, bigger house, more money… .I mean, these examples are endless. The point is, does it actually worth? Do we ever think if we actually need those things before we want them?

After this, I was forced to think what I need and what I don’t. May be I didn’t need this Handy cam or the iPod or that DVD player. When I see my father back at home. He has a simple BPL color tv, he doesn’t need 32″ Sony LCD wall mount. He has a cellphone worth Rs 2,500. Whenever I ask him to change the phone, he always says… “Its a phone, I need this just for calls.” And believe me; he is much happier in life than me with those limited resources and simple gadgets. The very basic reason why he is happy with so little is that he doesn’t want things in life to make it luxurious, but he wants only those things, which are making his life easier. It’s a very fine line between these two, but after looking my father’s life style closely, I got the point. He needs a cell phone but not the iPhone. He needs a TV but not the 32″ plasma. He needs a car but not an expensive one.

Initially I had lot of questions.

I am earning good, still I am not happy…why?

I have all luxuries, still I am stressed.... why?

I had a great weekend, still I am feeling tired.... why?

I met lot of people, I thought over it again and again, I still don’t know if I got the answers, but certainly figured out few things. I realize that one thing which is keeping me stressed is the “stay connected” syndrome. I realized that, at home also I am logged in on messengers, checking mails, using social networks, and on the top of that, the windows mobile is not letting me disconnected. On the weekend itself, trying to avoid unwanted calls… and that is keeping my mind always full of stress. I realized that I am spending far lesser money than what I earn, even then I am always worried about money and more money. I realized that I am saving enough money I would ever need, whenever needed. Still I am stressed about job and salary and spends.


May be, many people will call this approach “not progressive attitude“, but I want my life back. Ultimately it’s a single life, a day gone is a day gone. I believe if I am not happy tonight, I’ll never be happy tomorrow morning. I finally realized that meeting friends, spending quality time with your loved one’s; spending time with yourself is the most important thing. If on Sunday you are alone and you don’t have anybody to talk with, then all that luxuries life, all that money is wasted. May be cutting down your requirements, re-calculating your future goal in the light of today’s happiness is a worthwhile thing to do. I believe putting your happiness ahead of money is the choice we need to make.


I think, a lot can be said and done but what we need the most is re-evaluation of the value of happiness and time we are giving to our life and people associate with it.

9 comments:

Vipin Kumar N said...

Hi Good One ...
I remember one thought ..." Earlier people were not having watch but they had Time .Now we have watch but no Time ".
Sure in this cat rat race we have lost objectives of life .
We say we are progressing .. but are we in the right direction ???

Kiran said...
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Kiran said...

Its really nice one sir..... :)
i din expect my name there... he he he... ;-)
Hope we all will learn something from this and change our life style....

Expatriate said...

Its very thought provoking ..
sorry I'm not convinced about the argument about doing things differently because you dont need them to be contempt.

Lets analyze in terms of bigger things what we have done and how we have used a as human race.
There is definitely a huge difference between the
-the scientific community and
-the user community

Not all wow scientific discoveries are wows in the user community - a simple example is cosmology and how hubble telescope took it beyond our simple telescopes . So many stars , so many new things were discovered , in term of austonomical times in a jiffy!

The second example is computing/computation/computers -without the super computers it would have been impossible to finish the human genome project and so many others. the computers are definitely needed . The same computers have made the internet resolution possible , translation (:p ) is one thing on computer which can translate a whole page in french to hindi ( try google translator - there is a new wave robot which can translate interactively what the user is typing into any of the 50 languages it supports in the languages native font ). So computers , TV's have essentialiy become the part and particle of human life ( atleast in developed nations ) and they continue to find usage everyday!

coming to latest steve jobs creation like ipod , dvd, hi res cameras .. these are the things which cater to specific user groups
-like music lover
-movie lover
-Picture taker

with technology you dont need expertise in becoming one. what used to take years to become in the old age is now so instant. thats why everyone wants to be everything and try all of them when they had no real interest. If we are lacking today anything then it is finding our intertest in things .

These things will get cheaper and dir cheaper in the years to come and no one will ever notice that you are so connected to the mobile ..
like how poeople knew how to live with phones ( cell phones) rining all the time , they will figure out that windows mobile can also be configured to not to check emails when you are not working ( no sync after 5PM) and will move on.

The rest is on the individual how easily he will figure out what needs be done to use the technology to better his life else it surely will overhelm the creator ( race) !

Kumar said...

I recieved this write-up as a fwd from one of colleague a few weeks ago. I liked it very much. Now I know who the original author is!
Keep writing!

SANTOSH....searching the footprints of SUCCESS!!! said...

Hi Sir,
Really this writing is an eye opener to GENX...

Aakarsh S Bhat said...

AWESOME! this is the exact thought that I have in my mind regularly!!! And you have bled it out! gr8 job.Its a 100% fact! I whole heartedly aggree with you! :)

aativas said...

Nice writing. Happiness is not in the objects outside but the state within.. but of course we do need objects to live for.. problems arises when the balance is lost!

Unknown said...

Really good one. We need to be contended with what we have as the holy scriptures of almost every religion stress on...